What is it that breaks your heart?

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Just a Thought ...

By Rick Kraft

What gets your emotions going? What is it that you can not look the other way from? What causes you to stop your world and feel passionate about?

Humans are emotional animals. That is the way God made us. We ride up and down on a roller coaster of emotions in our daily lives.
We may wake up in the morning happy that it is a weekend, stressed because of something at work, concerned about a family issue, angry because of a tragedy in national news, or disappointed over something bad that happened yesterday.

Then we get out of bed. As the minutes and hours of the day click off we have a good spell followed by a bad one and then our day turns good again. As I said, it is best analogized as a ride on a roller coaster.

If we listed out every emotion, this column wouldn’t be long enough. We experience hope, depression, romance, hunger, worry, anxiousness, fear, love, frustration, intimacy, anger, compassion, empathy, concern, joy, worry, happiness, sorrow, and so on.

Sometimes we experience all of these and more in the same day.
Each of us is a complex being. None of us have the same make up or the same combination of emotions programmed into us. We walked different journeys to get to today. Add to this the variable that often we can control what we choose to feel.

I don’t spend a lot of time worrying about human trafficking on the other side of the world, yet there are many individuals who devote their entire lives to this cause. I am glad they do, because this problem needs to be conquered. I don’t lose sleep over global warming, but again, there are individuals whose lives are solely dedicated to educating the world and fighting this issue.

If we truly want to learn what is important to us, we would study our emotions. If I am in the second or third round of interviewing an applicant for a position I sometimes ask the question, “What makes you laugh?” Or if I really want to get deep with another I may ask “What makes you cry?” Answered honestly you can really learn a lot about a person.

I get emotional when bad things happen to innocent children. I get emotional when my entire family is all together. I get emotional when people I have influenced succeed. And my list goes on...

Back to the question, “What breaks your heart?” If you were given a blank piece of paper and a pen and you had to write one sentence with less than ten words, what would you write?

The answer to this question will reveal a priority in your life also. A followup introspect question is “Do you devote time to try to address what breaks your heart?” If it truly breaks your heart, are you taking action on the issue you have identified?

What breaks your heart may be a personal issue or it may be an issue that has a team of people working around the clock to address. What is an unmet need in this world that you can make a difference on? Do you want to leave the world a better place than you found it? It is up to you...it is your move.

Many people make New Year’s resolutions. The goals set reveal action a person feels should be taken in his or her life. It is not hard to make New Year’s resolutions. The challenge is take them off the paper they are written on and to accomplish them.

This column is about perspectives that you keep, about what is deep inside you. You can’t rewrite your perspectives. They have been developed based upon your past and the road that has led you to today. But you do have the power to modify or adjust.

More importantly, you have the ability to choose to act or not act on how you experience the world. Your actions don’t change the entire world, but they do bring about change to some in the world. Those you influence influence others.

My challenge to you today is to take what breaks your heart on the inside and make a difference on the outside.

You can be a hermit and live out your years living for yourself. Nothing wrong with this, but what you have inside you dies with you.

You can invest in a life or lives and pour yourself into others to hopefully equip them to do good things. You can join others who are collectively trying to bring about change. You can also create a new organization and lead others who think like you to bring about change.

Answer these tough internal questions above and then take the first step to take action to address and change what breaks your heart. Only you can turn your emotions into action.

Just a thought...

Rick Kraft is a motivational speaker, a syndicated columnist, a published author, and an attorney. To submit comments, contributions, or ideas, e-mail to rkraft@kraftlawfirm.org or write to P.O. Box 850, Roswell, New Mexico, 88202-0850.